How to get an 
invitation back

Maureen Kennedy
Maureen Kennedy

Hholidaying in the UK is a very attractive option these days.

But an even ‘cheaper’ option is to stay with friends who live in a nice part of the country. So, based on the experiences of people I know, here are a few pointers on how to behave if that is what you are doing.

Firstly, give your hosts a chance to think about whether or not they want you to stay. Don’t just ring up and ask if it’s okay to go and stay for a week. Acknowledge how big a deal it is and suggest they have a think and get back to you.

Whether you are a single person, a couple or a family, anything more than a couple of days is going to be an imposition on their part requiring cleaning, making up beds, shopping etc.

If you are a large family, offer to split the costs of shopping during your stay. If your hosts decline, be sure to make generous contributions to the food and drinks supply.

Remember that you are not at home and, even if invited to do so, don’t make yourself at home to the extent that you behave in a selfish way or expect to be waited upon. If you do get up early, say that you will just make your own breakfast and don’t make your host feel obliged to rise at the crack of dawn just because it’s what you do.

Do not take your pets with you unless you truly believe your host when they say they don’t mind and they have space to 
accommodate them.

Don’t smoke in the house unless they do. Even if they say they don’t mind, I’ll bet they do. The smell of cigarettes will linger long after you have left. Just go outside but make sure you properly dispose of your dog ends and don’t ‘plant’ them in the garden.

Don’t leave the bathroom in a mess. Most people have cleaning stuff in the bathroom so don’t be shy about using it … if you know what I mean!

Don’t say things like, “can you call me a taxi”. That’s a very obvious hint that you want a lift. Find a taxi number and call it yourself or check out the buses.

And when you get home, send a card and/or flowers to say thank you. If you follow these tips, you might be invited back!