How often do you find yourself second guessing what will happen? What someone will say or do? Anticipating all the problems that might arise if you do something?
Quite often it’s enough to stop you in your tracks. But what are you actually afraid of?
In the workplace, there’s the person who will kill an idea by listing all the things that might go wrong or what went wrong in the past and will no doubt happen again. Family and friends will talk you out of something by suggesting all sorts of things that could happen ... these are the people who wouldn’t take the plunge themselves but don’t want to risk you succeeding.
How often have you looked back and wondered what all the fuss was about, why you worried so much about something that actually turned out just fine?
I recently had a client who had a whole list of reasons why he was stuck in a rut. He didn’t want to change jobs in case he offended his boss who had been good for him; he didn’t want to move abroad to work in case his family minded; he didn’t want to finish with his girlfriend (even though he really wanted to) as he didn’t want to upset her.
A year on, he has left his job having woken up to the fact that people left all the time and the boss was actually pleased for them. His family turned out to be overjoyed that he found a new job in a country they now look forward to visiting. And his girlfriend admitted that their relationship had run out of steam and she hadn’t wanted to upset him by calling it a day as she knew he was so sensitive so, in this case, fear was actually prolonging a relationship that needed to end.
How lucky to be one of those people who simply live for the moment, take each day as it comes and deal with eventualities when and if they arise. They are often the happiest of people.
Of course things can and will go wrong but there’s nothing that cannot be sorted out when and IF it happens. And in my experience, you can think of all sorts of eventualities but what will actually happen will be the one thing you didn’t consider.
So instead of pondering what might go wrong, start thinking about all the good things that might happen and go for it. You never know, it might just turn out all right!